Sometimes in life we want to have it all planned out.
Even those people who pride themselves on being spontaneous (which, I should note, is not me). We get sucked up into figuring out how to define ourselves, our career, our life choices.
I’ve been thinking about this topic a lot lately, and I think the holidays bring up the topic for many people. There is something about traveling home and being asked a million questions including how work is going, when you’re having kids and, of course, when you’re moving home that turns the insecurities on. Even at friendsgiving I heard many of my friends getting
grilled about when the next promotion is or when they’re going to settle down, by family members or friends who haven’t been updated in a while. It really hammers home the message that we’re supposed to have it all figured out.
The never-ending pressure to define ourselves started so early in our childhood. When we’re growing up it’s natural to be asked “what do you want to be when you grow up?” We feel like we need an easy-to-explain identity, a rock-solid understanding that we want to be a doctor or a scientist or a ballerina.
Recently, I’ve come to realize how limiting this world view is. There are so many people who have no idea what they’re passionate about, and it’s likely because they unintentionally believe what they love to do needs to fit into a pre-defined box. They want to know the options for their career path and pick the one they like best versus knowing what they like and designing job that fits their interests. Ultimately, you can love jewelry making, ice skating, baking, writing and event planning. You can do all of those things. Your life path might not be easy to explain, but at least it’s authentic.
Petite Power meditation: “Sometimes, you need to step outside, get some fresh air, & remind yourself of who you are & who you want to be.” – quotes-life.com