Lately, especially with the holiday season and upcoming New Year’s resolutions, I’ve seen a lot of guilt from the people around me.
Guilt for eating the delicious-looking dessert. Guilt for missing a workout class to go to a holiday party. Guilt for not reaching their personal goals in 2015.
- Give yourself credit, and appreciate how far you’ve come: So you had a giant slice of pie? Put it in perspective. Did you eat a healthy meal, and just indulge in dessert? Did you stick to your weekly workout routine? How much better are your habits than a year ago? You’re probably doing better than you think.
- Are you still taking small steps towards your goals? One misstep doesn’t undo everything. Maybe you started a side-business and wanted to make it more profitable. Maybe you wanted to go to yoga classes three times a week. Just because you didn’t hit that exact goal doesn’t mean you need to beat yourself up. Appreciate the progress!
- Focus on what makes you feel good: This is important in any change you’re planning to make in your life. Are you really excited about your huge dinner party, which includes 12 desserts that you can’t wait for? Then eat some! Do you have a busy week of celebrating? Go! However, while indulging, also remind yourself how good progress towards your goals feels. Know that you are choosing to enjoy this moment, and then will choose to take advantage of other pockets of time to meal prep, listen to a podcast, go on a run… whatever gets you closer to where you want to be. Ultimately, happiness is the destination, so don’t feel bad enjoying some indulgences along the way.
Focusing on the positive and what makes you feel good is so important in all aspects of life. I recently read an article on reducing clutter, and it reiterated that you need to focus on keeping what makes you happy and brings you joy, versus harping on what you should get rid of. Not only does that work for getting rid of stuff, but it’s also a perfect way to approach life!
This is a first of a three-part series on goals, so keep an eye out for more information and next steps for making lasting change.
Petite Power meditation: “Life is short. Break the rules, forgive quickly, kiss slowly, love truly, laugh uncontrollably, and never regret anything that made you smile.”